Twin Pregnancy Advice

14 Sep

Like many other blog topics, I’ve been meaning to  write a about advice I’d give to expectant twin mothers for a while now. So it turns out that a girl I use to know just found out she’s having twins (perfect excuse to finally write this blog)- here’s my crack at some twin advice.

Dear Sue,

Rachel told me that you were expecting twins- congratulations! No seriously, from one twin mom to another (soon to be:), you are so blessed. As far as I’m concerned, twins are the best thing in the entire world. Obviously, I don’t know what it’s like with just a singleton but I reckon that’s a good thing. Better that you only know the work it takes to raise two at once! Ignorance is bliss my friend.

Anyways, I just thought I’d pass on a few tips for your pregnancy and will write you another email about the first few weeks after birth.

Take what you want and leave the rest. These are only my suggestions based on my experience and watching other friends with their twins.

So here we go!

Twin Pregnancy

1) This is an obvious one,  but expect your stomach to get pretty damn big. For me, I looked like a “normal” pregnancy lady till 30 weeks but between 30-37 weeks I absolutely exploded. It felt like my stomach was growing faster than my skin could stretch! Even if you have a decent tummy by 30 weeks, expect HUGE amounts of growth in those last few weeks. And it might just drop of you like a bomb so beware. Prepare so that you’re already dialing down a few notches once you reach that ‘magical’ 30 week point. I’d have a good pregnancy back brace or waist band on stand by as well as compression socks.

2) Liquid Gold- Pure Tissue Oil

By a LANDSLIDE this stuff is the BEST cream/lotion/oil you can get for your pregnancy skin. Use it during pregnancy as well as after and I SWEAR you won’t be sorry. I know this needs no restating but your skin is about to go through a huge upheaval and it’s important that you treat it as nice as you can.

3)Negative remarks

Unfortunately, this started during my pregnancy and simply carries on unendingly. I think it’s the case with any pregnancy woman, you always get those people who want to stick their nose in, uninvitedly, and give you their two cents about your pregnancy. With carrying twins, many many many people said things (and still do) say things to me like:

” Oh no! You’re never going to sleep again!”
” Double trouble!”
” There goes your life!”
” Oh your skin is going to be such a mess afterwards!”

And on and on.

I’m a huge believer in the power of words so I get really irritated when people say seemingly ‘innocent’ things like this. The thing is that each ONE person may say it in jest but when you hear that ‘innocent’ jest 10x’s a day, it has the potential to chip away at your once joyful mentality. Don’t let them steel your excitement! I always use to reply to people in the following manner:

” No way! I have double the blessing:)”

Or

“Come hell or high water, these kids are a gift from God to us and we are choosing to view them as a party that doesn’t stop. It might be a pretty chaotic party sometimes, but a party none the less.”

4) Prepare mentally

     A) I highly recommend this book for your pregnancy:

This book was a great help to me and many other multiples mothers I know. It focuses on your diet and what to expect from your body. I found it incredibly useful because although I loved my gynie, I’m not aware of an Eastern Cape doctor who specializes in multiples so the advice you’d be given would be fairly generic pregnancy stuff where you actually need special instructions and different expectations.  

     B) I’m not sure what your plans are in regards to work once you have the babies but the best thing you can do is to prepare in advance for your scenario. For instance, I knew that I was not going to have a nanny to help me, that it would just be me and the babies day in and day. Therefore, I had to figure out how to go about my day to day tasks with two small babies relying on me at the same time. The last four weeks of my pregnancy I was on mild best rest so I spent loads of time envisioning how I would breast feed two babies at once, burp two babies at once, what I would do with the one while I was changing the others nappy, how to get my grocery shopping done and so on. Honestly, I envisioned these scenarios so many times that once they came and things were actually happening… it seems like second nature.

     C) On a similar note, if you are going to go back to work, I strongly suggest, at the very least, that you get a night nurse. Initially having to get up multiple times a night to feed two babies and then having to put them both back to sleep is not a small tasks when you HAVE to be at work by 8 the next morning.

     D) I picked up this nugget from reading another twin moms blog about her early days- when people say they want to come visit you and the babies, ask them to come during feed or bathing time. That way you have an extra pair of hands available to help and actually be useful instead of you stressing about having a guest over and making them tea while they just stare at your sleeping babies.

5) Go ahead and get one of these Jane Powertwin Prams and put your mind at ease.

This twin pram is absolutely the AMAZING and totally saved my bacon the first few months with the babies. I actually wrote a whole blog about it back then:
http://itshowweroll.blogspot.com/2010/12/i-love-you-jane-powertwin-pram.html

If you’re patient and start looking now, you will definitely be able to find a good second hand one on Gumtree. I suggest looking for a second hand one first as buying a brand new one is going to cost you a very pretty penny.

Ok. I’m pretty I gave you enough to mull over for a while. If you have any questions at all don’t hesitate to shout:)

Will write again soon from…

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One Response to “Twin Pregnancy Advice”

  1. Amy September 15, 2011 at 1:55 am #

    Great advice, and not just for moms expecting twins, but for any mom expecting her 2nd, 3rd, 4th, + child. Especially about the negative comments thing… the first baby gets welcomed into existence with HURRAYS! but by #3, people grimace and say things like, "Ooh, did you mean to get pregnant?" Nothing like intrusive inquiries reducing your new baby's existence to a foolish mistake. If twins comments bug you, wait till you get pregnant again. Just plan on wearing ear plugs 24/7 and constantly smile/nod. 🙂

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